Today I celebrate the strength of many women. Women, especially single mamas, endure so much and we make it look effortless at times. We know how to put on a smile the day after we had been crying all night. We know how to pretend everything is okay. We know how to put our feelings aside, put on our capes and go save the world because someone always needs us.
It’s Black history month and I’ve been doing some research on some of the strong women I remember from my childhood. I remember reading about Queen Nefertiti, Coretta Scott King, Ruby Dee, Sojourner Truth, Maya Angelou, Rosa Parks, Angela Davis, and so many others. I also think about the female slaves who came to America and were forced to separate from their family. The slaves were forced to do unimaginable things for their slave masters. There was no time to show weakness. All of these women paved the way for me, the women in my generation and those in the future. As I read their stories I always wonder what their lives were really like. What is the untold story? What suffering was placed upon them from their own family members? How many tears did they cry in private? How were they able to appear so strong to the rest of the world?
As I think about what it means to be a strong woman, I see a woman who stands upright, with the pain and suffering behind her as she looks to the future with purpose. She does not allow her faith to be compromised. She sets a high standard for herself and those around her. She is never comfortable with settling for less than what she deserves. Where she lacks wisdom, she seeks it. She is not afraid to ask for help when she needs it because she understands that she does not have to do it all by herself. She is dependable. She gives her time,talent, and treasure, and she knows when to retreat from the world to re-charge. She is submissive to leadership. She knows when to be silent and her silence is perceived as strength, not weakness. She humbles herself. Most importantly she finds her strength in Christ.
Oftentimes we don’t realize how strong we are. We feel pain. We cry. We sometimes feel like a hot mess. But somehow we find strength to make it one more day. Single mamas, we can’t give up. Our kids and the next generation depends on us. You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to get it all right. Find your strength. “God is our refuge and strength, A very present help in trouble.” Psalms 46:1 NKJV
At times we may feel weak when others perceive us to be strong. The next woman you see may look like she has it all together, but she may be struggling just as much as you. Where does her strength come from? The next time someone asks you, “how do you do it?” you can tell them your strength comes from the Lord. Be encouraged ladies and always Keep your Hearts in Faith 💕